13.2 Self-restraint

 13.2 Self-restraint

Question:

What is wrong with using a harsh word at someone?

 Answer:

The injury resulting from a burn heals, but not the scar that is 

caused by an offending word.                                                                   (Couplet – 129)

தீயினாற் சுட்டபுண் உள்ளாறும் ஆறாதே

நாவினாற் சுட்ட வடு.                                                                    (குறள் – 129)

 

Explanation:

When we have a physical injury, it eventually heals, and once the wound heals, it no longer bothers us. But if someone speaks to us using harsh words, the thought that they used harsh words remains in our minds for a long time, like a scar that remains forever even after the wound heals. The incident at which the harsh words were used, and the actual words used never disappear from our minds. Whenever we recall the incident, we tend to resent the incident and be angry at the person who used those offending words. We may even feel like getting even with the offender. Such a feeling is not conducive to our own peace of mind. Therefore, it is always a good practice to use pleasant words when we speak to others.